tips for giving a wedding toast

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If you have the responsibility of giving a wedding toast at the reception, you may be understandably nervous.

Relax! If you know what your doing and come prepared, you will do just fine. Here are some tips that can help you make a wonderful toast that is memorable for the sentiments, not for the wrong reasons.

don't drink alcohol

Toasts may be scheduled for various times during the reception, while alcohol may be available from the beginning. Don’t be tempted to have a drink just yet. Some people think it will calm their nerves, but most people will not be impressed if your speech is slurred or you laugh at your own jokes. Be patient and wait until after your toast before you drink.

write it down

You don’t have to write down and read your whole speech, but you should at least make some notes to keep you on track. Don’t wait until the last minute, thinking you will come up with something to say. That never works and it is embarrassing for everyone involved.

So, write down your toast and practice your speech. Get a couple of people who know the couple to listen to what you have written and make suggestions. Take their constructive criticism. Remember, they will be in the audience.

start with a funny story

Hopefully, there is at least one funny story having to do with how the couple met or when you met the bride or groom. Make sure that the story is appropriate for everyone in the audience. Remember that family members of all ages are in the audience. So, don’t tell an outrageous story.

So, write down your toast and practice your speech. Get a couple of people who know the couple to listen to what you have written and make suggestions. Take their constructive criticism. Remember, they will be in the audience.

Keep it G-rated and make sure it is not too embarrassing for either of them. If you’re not sure, ask ahead of time, before you tell the story.

If you start with a funny story, that puts everyone in a good mood. They will enjoy your toast and the rest of the evening more because of the added humor.

say nice things

You should say something nice about both the bride and the groom. You are likely closer to one of them than the other but you still want to say something nice about both of them. Remember, a wedding toast is not the time to show disapproval or passive-aggressive behavior. If you can’t come up with anything, get someone to help you. You should take at least a couple of weeks for planning.

Near the end, you can quote a short poem or say something about the wonder of love. This should lead the happy couple to smile and possibly share a kiss.

End the toast by wishing them the best of luck and raising your glass. Your big part in the day will be over and you can relax.

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today's tip

Don't give out personal information or embarrass anyone. Your toast should be fun and enjoyable, not uncomfortable.