Congratulations! You have the honor of being chosen to represent the happy couple and their family at their wedding reception. After the idea sinks in, you'll probably have more questions than answers when it comes to the host and hostess duties. When the ceremony ends, your duties begin.

Depending on the size of the wedding, you may or may not share the responsibility with another couple. Traditionally, larger weddings will have two couples greet the guests at the reception to keep things running smoothly. One couple chosen from the bride, one from the groom. Old rules don't necessarily apply today. They may be close friends or family, singles or couples.

Responsibilities

Most of your duties as host and hostess will be on the wedding day but you'll also be a guest. Prior to the special event, attend any bridal showers and events that you are invited to. Provide support or assistance to the bride and groom as any friend or member of the family would.

On the wedding day, dress appropriately. Check with the bride in advance to see if there is any special requests for attire. Usually you can wear what you wish, but if you're looking for a new dress or suit, ask about the general style and colors that will be utilized and dress accordingly. Remember, your appearance is very important, so be well-groomed and wear something comfortable and attractive. It's common for the host and hostess to receive a boutonniere or corsage, which will probably be given to you before the ceremony.

Your main responsibility as host and hostess at the wedding reception will be to greet the guests. Leave the church or ceremony site well in advance of the guests to assure that you arrive promptly to the reception site. If possible, ask before the wedding day if anything needs to be transported to the reception. When you get there, check in and ask if any assistance is needed with the tables or decorations.

Greet the guests graciously and introduce yourself if you don't know them. Point them in the direction of the guestbook and gift table. Later on, you can kick back and have some fun. Try to keep an eye on the door and meet any late arrivals to give them a quick update.

People may leave temporarily and then come back. This can be confusing after meeting many new people all in one day. To determine if they are new arrivals, look to see if they are carrying a card or gift. Often, a new guest will have a look of bewilderment on their face and will scan the area to decide where to go next. These are easy indications that your greeting abilities are needed once again.